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No-So-Deep Thoughts: Weddings edition.


‘Tis now June, and my schedule is populated with various wedding events — showers, engagement parties, nuptial celebrations, and the like. And although I’ve noticed this before, this realization has really slapped me in the face this year: weddings bring out the judgmental and the nasty like no other. Some thoughts ***:

*Truly, I try really hard not to be judgmental about anything or anyone. I don’t always succeed, but I don’t find it a very attractive trait in myself and it never makes me feel good. But when it comes to weddings, it’s like people feel free to say whatever crap they want, and my snide and snarky remarks are usually in there, too. With weddings, people will bitch about every little thing! I may not bitch about every thing, but I find myself at a wedding or bridal shower, and the negativity fills my brain. I’m pretty sure I know what much of the negativity is the result of, which brings me to my next thought.

*You can’t judge what other people spend their money on. It does no good. I don’t want anyone telling me what to spend my money on (unless I ask), and so I don’t get to comment on others’ expenses. It’s a waste of time. People value different stuff and that’s that.

*It’s not a competition, or at least it really shouldn’t be. A wedding or shower or whatever should be about the couple in question. Decisions should not be made out of spite or for revenge or to get the edge on some other couple’s celebration, but this does seem to happen a lot of the time. Why? I don’t get it. Isn’t it about you and your happiness? No one outside of the couple should have much to do with it.

*If, on the RSVP card, a couple asks you to name your favorite song or favorite love song, the correct answer is not “Hyper-Ballad” by Bjork. Probably anything by Bjork is not correct. Regardless of the purpose of the couple asking that question, Bjork is most likely never the answer. Especially if the songs submitted will become tunes that must be sung to get the couple to kiss during the reception dinner. When that is the case, the suggestion of Bjork is ridiculous and kinda hilarious (in this silly girl’s mind, at least).

*Back to money. Weddings are expensive, for the most part. I’ve often heard that as soon as you say something is for  your wedding, the price is jacked up because people assume you will pay a shit ton for  your perfect day. And, I think a lot of people will pay exorbitant amounts because they want their wedding to be perfect. But this is what I think (please read the *** part at the end) — the more creative you get, the less you will have to pay. I’m not saying DIY everything — I mean think creatively. I fully believe people can save money on weddings if they put thought into it and put a spin or two on the standards.

*Does it seem like people put more energy into the wedding than the marriage? Sometimes? Ick.

*So, it’s my goal to be less snarky toward others’ marital celebrations starting now. To be honest — seriously, I’m not lying — the snark is a recent development, I haven’t always been bitchy about weddings. A very recent development, trust.

***Yeah, I’m an asshole. I’ve never planned a wedding, been engaged or gotten married. So yeah, nothing I say is of any importance. But didn’t you already know that? 🙂

top from YeeHaw and bottom from Flower of the Dead.

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